Everyone wants to feel loved and secure. This is even more true when you are a child. Throw in the fact the parents are divorcing and most kids need reassurance they are loved by both parents and that their lives will be as normal as possible. It is important to stand up for the rights of your children, but in order to maintain a healthy environment, it should be done properly. The ultimate result should be one that provides a loving home life for children of divorce, and provides a sense of security.
Mental health experts agree when the parents are able to make decisions regarding their children without conflict, everyone wins. Here are 3 tips on how you can fight for your child, but not fight with your ex:
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One of the marks of a successful outcome in a divorce case is that the kids’ lives remain stable and consistent. The Courts and attorneys work hard to reach results that are in the best interests of the children and develop a parenting plan that works for the family. This includes allowing your kids to continue participation in regular activities. While scheduling concerns arise less frequently in the summer months, when school is in session it is more likely you will experience a scheduling conflict with your ex-spouse.
To make sure you are able to maintain the visitation and custody schedule put in place in the Court throughout the year, experts suggest the following:
- Communicate, communicate, communicate. The best scenario is one where the parents remain friendly after the divorce and are able to talk to each other calmly. If this is not your situation,… Continue reading
Up until recently the law on child custody in Florida made determinations as to who is the primary caregiver, the secondary caregiver, and who has custody. This meant that for the non-custodial parent, issues of visitation also had to be decided. The result of this system was that parents were constantly in Court fighting over who got Thanksgiving and who got Christmas, and which house the children would call “home”. In an effort to find a way to siphon through the cases and reach solutions without the need for Court intervention at every turn, the Florida legislature recently changed the law.
The concept of time-sharing is now the law in Florida. Time-sharing requires the Court to consider many factors when formulating a plan, some of which include:
- The relationship between the parent and child, and the ability of the parent to develop a relationship.… Continue reading
Child custody and visitation are typically the most important issues to resolve in a divorce with kids. Finances are a close second, and are usually intermingled with issues regarding your children. This is because making sure your kids are taken care of and maintain a healthy relationship with both parents is a key goal of any family law matter. It is always best if the parents are able to enter a successful post marriage arrangement for visitation and custody, but this is not always the case. All too often the parties allow their emotions to run over and impact the kids, which may include preventing visitation in an attempt to “get back at” the ex. In the end, this type of behavior is more harmful to the children and does not allow families to move forward by taking positive steps post-divorce.
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All too often in a divorce parents force their kids to take sides, or restrict visitation with the non- custodial parent. This behavior is detrimental to the children, and can be the cause for legal action against you by your spouse. Many of the complex divorce cases become drawn out because the parties disagree over important issues regarding their kids. But to keep your children from one of their parents is not only emotionally harmful, but may possibly be considered abusive.
Parental gatekeeping is the term used to refer to a parent that restricts or prohibits contact between their ex and the kids. It can take many forms, but the most common include:
- Preventing communication between parent and child.
- Refusing to allow visitation.
Making decisions that impact your kids without getting input from the other parent.
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Unfortunately just because a Court orders child support be paid, that does not mean the party responsible for making payment does as ordered. Nonpayment of child support is a serious issue and can lead to a substantial amount of arrears being owed. Arrears are the amount of child support payments that are past due, and if you are owed child support you might seek to have it paid on a retroactive basis. What this means is that your ex has to pay all the back due amount, and keep current on today’s payments.
The child support guidelines requirement payment of all child support, past and present. To get payment retroactively, which means payment for what was due in the past but has not been paid; you must file a contempt of court matter with the Court. A contempt matter sets forth:
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When a couple calls it quits, the kids are often left wondering if there was anything they could have done to prevent the split. Feelings of guilt and extreme mood swings are common in children of divorce. The list of things kids need from their parents is as unique as is each child, but with the right information you and your ex can put your kids first and make sure their emotional well-being remains intact.
A good guide for things that children need from each parent during and after a divorce includes:
● Involvement: the need your kids have for you to take them to the zoo, read them a book, or just ask about their day is intensified during and after a divorce. Calling, writing letters, sending cards, and even doling out discipline are all ways that make a child feel safe… Continue reading
When a couple divorces with children, the continued welfare and care of the kids is the single most important factor. We work hard to put the best interests of your children first when helping you through your divorce and no other issue can cause a headache more than your ex-spouse not meeting their child support obligations.
Florida law requires all orders of child support to be paid. When support is not paid as ordered, the parent due the payment has many options to for child support enforcement:
● Wage deductions.
● Suspension of hunting and driving licenses.
● Contempt of Court proceedings.
● Placing a lien on the payor’s property.
● Denial of passport.
Employing one or more of these techniques should get results. No one likes having their wages garnished, or their right to drive revoked. It is unfortunate… Continue reading
Not so very long ago the idea of staying together “for the kids” was common. It was thought the negative impact divorce has on children was reason enough for parents to find a way to stay together. However, it is more likely that happy parents raise happy kids. This concept is true even of divorced parents. Providing a positive example of a healthy relationship helps children recognize healthy relationships in their own lives.
Studies show divorce can have a positive impact on children. Not only will kids learn what healthy relationships look like, but they will also experience:
● A home without tension relieves stress and allows children to grow in a healthy way.
● The opportunity to develop meaningful relationships with extended family increases. When a couple splits the opportunity to spend more time with aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents can… Continue reading
Mental health professionals agree that when families separate, the best interests of the children are served by parents that are able to present a united face to the kids even in the midst of divorce. However, not all parents are able to effectively co-parent and attempts to do so can cause more harm than good. If the parents are unable to act civilly when the children are present, other methods of parenting after divorce must be explored.
Psychological studies show parallel parenting to be a good choice for those parents that are unable to work as a parenting team after a divorce. Parallel parenting involves:
● The parties disengaging from each other for an initial time period by having limited interaction
● Assigning decision making authority over certain topical areas to different parents
This type of arrangement does not mean the parties are… Continue reading