Maintaining Your Kids’ Schedules
One of the marks of a successful outcome in a divorce case is that the kids’ lives remain stable and consistent. The Courts and attorneys work hard to reach results that are in the best interests of the children and develop a parenting plan that works for the family. This includes allowing your kids to continue participation in regular activities. While scheduling concerns arise less frequently in the summer months, when school is in session it is more likely you will experience a scheduling conflict with your ex-spouse.
To make sure you are able to maintain the visitation and custody schedule put in place in the Court throughout the year, experts suggest the following:
- Communicate, communicate, communicate. The best scenario is one where the parents remain friendly after the divorce and are able to talk to each other calmly. If this is not your situation, make it a plan to schedule activities and keep a copy of the schedule. When a change is needed to accommodate a sporting or other extracurricular activity, agree to text or email.
- Plan, plan, plan. Often times family events or school plays are scheduled well in advance of the actual date. When possible, communicate important events to your ex and work out the schedule in plenty of time ahead of the event.
Your relationship with your ex is completely different after a divorce than it was during the marriage. Take the time you need to adjust to the new dynamic, and resolve to put your kids first. Keep in mind that the orders in place in your case are the “law” of your divorce. If you need to deviate from the schedule, ask permission. And, if you are the one being asked to shuffle things around, give your consent if it is possible and doesn’t create a hardship on your end. Agreeing on a schedule and changes to the schedule is the best way to handle these situations. If you are unable to reach an agreement, you must ask the Court for a modification of the arrangement. Don’t take matters into your own hands, because failing to follow the order in place may result in contempt proceedings being brought against you. Our legal team has experience seeking modifications and reaching solutions that work for you.
If you have questions regarding co-parenting, call our office for answers. Contact us to schedule an appointment with an experienced family law attorney in Stuart and the Treasure Coast today.